When a child has abused the mom to the point that they must be moved out of the home, whether it be temporary of permanent, the Mom must have time to heal. If we look at the healing process of a broken leg in relationship to a broken heart the overview may be more clear. With a broken leg the leg must be set in the best situation to heal (a cast). During the healing time (especially in the beginning) the pain is very acute and any jarring or prodding at the wound will increase the pain and slow down healing. Loved ones would not think of doing such a thing! The doctor will often recommend propping it up and avoiding using it for a few weeks and then minimum protected use for six weeks or more. When we have emotional pain there is often a need for time to not poke and jar the memory but to let it rest and heal. With a broken heart the healing will take years!

After the cast comes off then the physical therapy must begin and exercise although painful is often required. The emotional healing after a time of rest is also difficult and requires courage and endurance.

The healing time can begin for the parents when they are not being prodded and jarred by reminders of the child and the illness. I hope the healing can begin right away. Both parents can have their health highly affected by the major stress that a mental illness will bring into a home.

If you have entrusted your child to the care of someone else. The new caregivers must NOT be criticized or corrected or directed. That family needs support, encouragement and appreciation. I know it is hard to give when you are exhausted but it is important to at least send them a card or two.

You have done your time. You did the best that you could. You have set an example of love, honesty and integrity for the child to follow. It is now time for you to pick up the pieces of your family that were left battered and bleeding and support each other through the healing time. Broken hearts can heal just as a broken leg can!