Attachment Disorder help from Attachment.org

Attaching Parents

Fighting Parents

Use loving eyes

Calm assertive voice

Empathetic – "I can see you are not strong now"

"You can rest until you are ready"

"You can stand/sit/lay or kneel"

A gentle supportive hand on child’s mid shoulder/back of neck area (to calm)

Take a deep breath and walk away

Are happy the child is resting and use the time to have fun yourself

Are happy for the child when child is ready to comply

Are patient while child is "resting and testing"

"You will too!"

"Do it Now!"

"Because I said so" (standing stiff with hands on hips)

Yelling Swearing at child

Calling Child names

Repeating orders/commands

Threats – "If you don’t I’ll…"

"You’ll be sorry"

Grabbing/Hitting

Glaring Gloating when victorious

(For more information on stopping stealing and other behaviors, read When Love Is Not Enough)